Affair and Infidelity
When your relationship takes a takes a turn
You never go into a relationship or get married thinking that your partner will have an affair. But, when it happens it can turn your world upside down. Your whole relationship can feel like a lie. It can be difficult to know what to believe or what to trust. It can even be challenging to know how to trust yourself.
Listen, this is an incredibly hard situation. Most people say “I thought I’d leave when if I learned of infidelity.” But, when faced with the reality of it, leaving is more difficult than it seems. You have a life built with this person, and maybe a family too. You probably still love your partner, but you may not like them. Maybe, you even hate them right now.
To say it’s complicated is an understatement.
We’re here to help guide you through affair recovery counseling
We’re not here to tell you what to do or to judge you. We are here to listen. We’re here to help guide you to make the best decision for yourself. We’re here to sit with you in the hard stuff and help you untangle the unthinkable.
Many clients who experience infidelity and affairs experience …
- Like they can’t stop thinking about what happened
- Wonder what it is about themselves that they need to change
- Are curious why they weren’t good enough
- Want to be an investigator and find more answers
- Need to know the details
- Feel angry, sad, rage, despair, loneliness, confusion all within minutes of each other
- Suicidal thoughts aren’t uncommon during this time
- A lack of love and care
When you’re the one who had the affair
You’ve been caught. Or maybe you came out and told your partner. Perhaps, you feel like a weight has been taken off your shoulders because you don’t have to keep up the lie anymore. But now what? You know what’s been going on, but this is all so new for your partner. As much as you what to move forward your partner is in shock.
We call this the crisis period. It lasts for three months.
Many clients who have affairs do it as a way to cope with something deeper going on in their life such as…
- not feeling good enough
- pressures of life
- not feeling like a priority
- intimacy disorder
- and number of other factors.
So, how do we move forward from infidelity?
We talk. The best therapy approach with affairs and infidelity is when both partners are in individual therapy along with couples therapy. We understand that that isn’t always an option. Think about what your most important need is in the moment, individual or couples therapy.
Recovering from an affair takes time. Some people say about three years. We’ve seen that ring true in our office too. This is even more true if there have been multiple affairs.
There’s a lot of healing that needs to take place. Trust has to be rebuilt. We really have to rewind and understand the core pieces that contributed to the affair to then be able to move forward to something that works better for you both.
Great relationships are possible after infidelity with the help of Affair Recovery Counseling
You’re probably in a lot of pain right now. Don’t ignore what you’re feeling.
Here’s what you need to know. You are the expert of your life. You have to decide what’s going to be best for you. We know that deciding rather to stay in your relationship or end it can be very confusing right now though.
Here’s what we’ve seen. Our clients who decide to stay in the relationship have experienced incredible healing from doing really hard work. These couples come out feeling true intimacy and connection on the other side.
If you don’t feel like you have a clear answer, we recommend giving it 6 months before making any definite decision. During this time, diving into therapy is a great way to start processing and working through the pain of what you’re going through.
Begin Affair Recovery Counseling in Cincinnati, OH
If your relationship has been rocked by infidelity, don’t want to talk to a couples therapist, especially during the crisis period. Our team of relationship therapists is here to help you and your partner decide what the next steps in your relationship should be. To begin counseling in Cincinnati, OH, online therapy in Ohio, or online therapy in Kentucky, follow these steps:
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The therapists at Emma Schmidt and Associates, a Cincinnati based therapy office, are skilled relationship and sex therapists. However, that’s not the only mental health service they offer. Our therapists treat general mental health and relationship concerns. We treat many different sexual concerns including sexual pain and erectile dysfunction, and mismatched libido. We also offer anxiety treatment, depression treatment, trauma and PTSD treatment, sexual trauma treatment, and relationship and couples therapy. In addition to online therapy in Ohio, our therapists provide online therapy in Kentucky. Contact our office to learn more about the many ways our team of skilled clinicians can help you thrive.